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How to Manage a Trip Away from your Breastfed Baby or Toddler

Writer's picture: Danielle FaceyDanielle Facey

Updated: Nov 12, 2024

Whether you’re planning a romantic getaway or need to travel for work, you probably feel conflicting emotions about the prospect of leaving your nursling overnight. On one hand, you might be excited for some me-time and the chance for a few nights of uninterrupted sleep. Or perhaps concerns about how your little one will cope in your absence feel all-consuming. Maybe you swing between these two extremes depending on the day! However you feel about your planned trip, let’s unpack the burning questions you have, including:


- How can I manage my milk supply & avoid engorgement?

- How will my baby or toddler be fed in my absence?

- How will my child be comforted & fall asleep without being nursed?

- How much do I need to pump while I’m away (if at all)?

- Should I wean my child off the breast before going away?


First and foremost, if you’re reading this out of curiosity but have no desire (or need) to leave your nursling overnight, that’s completely normal. We’re all individuals, and so are our circumstances. Some mothers can’t wait for a night away to recharge, while others have zero desire to be separated from their children overnight. Both feelings are completely valid, and you don’t need to explain to anyone why you may or may not want time away from your baby, toddler, or child. If you do want or need time away, rest assured that a few nights apart need not end your breastfeeding journey. Thousands of mothers worldwide take girls' weekends and business trips every day, leaving their breastfed babies behind. If you want or need to, give yourself permission to do the same.


Busting Myths - Do You Need to Stop Breastfeeding Before Going Away?


A common misconception is that if you’re going away for any period overnight, you should wean your child off the breast to prepare for the separation. I disagree with this for several reasons. Primarily, weaning solely to prepare your child for a night away is unnecessary. In fact, it could make your time away more difficult. Gentle weaning is a gradual process, and it may be hard to stop breastfeeding by a set deadline. Adding pressure on yourself and your baby to do this by a specific date isn’t helpful for anyone.


Abrupt weaning also has health risks for you, including engorgement and mastitis, not to mention significant hormonal fluctuations. In most cases, breastfeeding will remain your child’s comfort once you return from your trip. It’s also a wonderful way to reconnect and reassure them that your relationship hasn’t changed. As far as they’re concerned, if they were breastfed when you went away, they’re still breastfeeding when you return. Suddenly not breastfeeding after your trip could be incredibly distressing for you both. Imagine if your partner went away for the weekend and, upon returning, inexplicably never kissed you again. You’d be left feeling confused and wondering what had changed. Your child is no different. If breastfeeding is an integral part of your relationship now, a few nights away won’t change that.


In the unlikely event that your trip triggers a nursing strike, you can get your breastfeeding journey back on track (if you wish) with skin-to-skin contact, babywearing, and bathing together.


If you are ready to stop breastfeeding for any reason, you can find gentle, responsive weaning support here.


How Should I Manage My Supply & Avoid Engorgement?


If your baby is less than three months old, your supply is significantly impacted by your hormones. A few nights away won’t have a lasting impact on your supply, but you will almost certainly need to hand express or pump milk to avoid engorgement or clogged ducts. If your baby is over three months old, your supply is more closely linked to how often you remove milk. In this case, being away from your child for more than two or three nights could have a slight, temporary impact on your milk supply. To avoid this, wherever possible, pump or express milk as often as your baby typically nurses. For example, if they usually nurse four times throughout the day, aim to hand express or pump milk at similar intervals.


If you have access to a freezer and a cooler bag, you may even be able to save any milk you express to give to your children later.


But How Will They Sleep?


If your child has ever fallen asleep without you, then you know it’s possible for them to do so again. Whether being breastfed to sleep is your baby’s preference, however, is an entirely different matter. It certainly was in my son’s case. He was three and still nursing when I first left him overnight, actually for a trip with his dad to grandma’s. Up to that point, he had been nursed to sleep for most naps and bedtime since birth. As with any adult or child, though, my son could fall asleep in other ways if he felt safe and comfortable. Those really are the only two key ingredients for helping your nursling fall asleep without you: feeling safe and comfortable.


Creating this feeling, however, might take preparation. My son, for example, is a sensitive soul. He adores his dad but wasn’t necessarily happy to fall asleep with him if I was around. In my absence, though, he could. This was only possible because my son had plenty of practice falling asleep with his dad leading up to our time apart. For him, the following components were essential at bedtime:


- A full tummy and empty bladder

- A few bedtime stories

- Near silence or white/brown noise

- A darkened room

- Movement (rocking or being carried)


My fiancé is a seasoned hand with babies, a calm presence from years of soothing his nieces and nephews to sleep. If your partner or caregiver doesn’t have much experience caring for your baby solo, give them as many opportunities as possible before your trip.


Practice Makes Perfect


Choosing the right caregiver will significantly affect how you both feel while you’re away. Trust the person you feel will take the best care of your child. Give your child and their caregiver time together so they feel comfortable with each other without you. If they haven’t spent much time alone, including putting your baby to sleep, create as many opportunities for this as possible before you leave. You might even consider a “rehearsal” bedtime or overnight stay in advance. Practicing over nap times can also be helpful if overnight practice isn’t feasible.


If you haven’t already, establish a simple sleep routine and share it with the caregiver. The goal is not to force sleep but to provide a comforting environment. What does your baby need? Certain sounds? A favorite texture or motion? Share these with their caregiver to help provide those comforts.


Make a plan for comforting your baby if they get upset. Are they soothed by certain books, toys, outdoor time, or even a warm bath? Layering other comfort associations alongside nursing helps prepare your little one for the temporary separation. If you usually only comfort your baby at the breast, start adding rocking or patting to your routines in the weeks or months before your trip. Eventually, your child may come to associate these actions with comfort.


The Issue of Eating


Plan how your baby will be fed while you’re away. Decide whether to leave enough pumped milk or if they’ll be fed a mix of formula and breast milk. A rough guideline is 3oz/90ml to 5oz/150ml per feed. For breast milk storage:

- Store in a sterilized container or breast-milk storage bags.

- In the fridge at 4°C (or lower) for up to 8 days.

- In the fridge’s ice compartment for 2 weeks.

- In a freezer at -18°C (or lower) for up to 6 months.


Paced bottle feeding is recommended for all babies. If your baby has never accepted a bottle, other age-appropriate methods include:

- Under 3 months: a syringe, spoon, or small open cup.

- Over 3 to 6 months: a free-flowing sippy or open cup.

- Beyond 6 months: solids and water in a sippy or open cup. Stock up on your baby’s favorite foods to ensure they eat something, even if they drink less milk.


Whatever your child’s age, trust their intuition—they will eat when safe and comfortable. So give yourself permission to be fully present wherever you are. When reunited, that first feed will feel incredible.


Quick Checklist for Preparing Your Time Away


- Review your child’s feeding schedule and prepare enough milk/formula.

- Establish a consistent sleep routine with their caregiver.

- Practice comfort methods to soothe your child.

- Pack necessary feeding, sleep, and comfort items.


Final Thoughts


If you’d like personalized support for any aspect of navigating life as a breastfeeding mother, whether you need help taking care of yourself, returning to work, or weaning, you can book a 1-2-1 consultation with me here.


With love,

Danielle

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10 commentaires


ana.campos.u
12 juin 2024

Hello!

Thank you for this post and for the space. My 7mo baby has been waking up almost every 1-2 hours to nurse in the past weeks. I'm going away for 1 night soon. Does that mean that the care takers should offer the bottle with milk every time he wakes up?


And also, could we offer water on the bottle? Or not recommended? Thank you and best

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Danielle Facey
Danielle Facey
14 juin 2024
En réponse à

Hi Ana,


At 7 months old, yes I would ask your child's caregivers to offer a bottle with milk when your son wakes up. He may or may not drink very much, but that's OK! If he does not, I would ask them to focus on calming and soothing him back to sleep.


I hope you enjoy your night away!


With love,

Danielle

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Sophia Percival
Sophia Percival
19 mai 2024

I’m a few weeks away from a 5 night work trip to Europe that was mandatory, but I’m anxious about how to not accidentally wean my 20 month old. I nursed my eldest daughter past 2 years and plan to do the same with the second daughter. I’m planning to purchase a hand pump to be able to easily express milk on the plane and in the hotel, but I have no idea how much milk is too much or not enough. Any tips on not over pumping and then having issues with full breasts on the trip, or under pumping and accidentally drying up?

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Danielle Facey
Danielle Facey
20 mai 2024
En réponse à

Hi Sophia,


Congratulations on your breastfeeding journey so far! You are amazing!


To answer your question, by 20 months your supply is very well-established. If possible, whilst you are away, pump approximately as often as your daughter currently nurses. There is no need to panic if this simply isn't feasible. If you not able to pump that frequently whilst you are away, prioritise pumping first thing in the morning and last this at night before you sleep, emptying your breasts as much as you can when you do so.


Even if your supply does temporarily dip once you have been away, you can always increase it again upon your reunion with your daughter. Trust you body and your toddler, too.


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red_disk
16 mai 2024

Hi Danielle

How would you say duration of time away impacts on ability to re-establish feeding upon returning?

I’m planning a trip where I will be away for two weeks from my 14 month old baby who direct feeds 3x a day. I’m not ready to wean yet (I’d rather that be his choice) but I’m nervous about pursuing the trip knowing it’s a risk he will never breastfeed again.

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Danielle Facey
Danielle Facey
16 mai 2024
En réponse à

Hi,


Whilst this is a possibility, the more likely outcome is that your baby will nurse more enthusiastically than ever upon your reunion! If this does happen though, you can bring him back to the breast gently by doing lots of skin to skin, perhaps bathing together and offering for him to nurse frequently.


With love,

Danielle

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Mel Roberts
Mel Roberts
30 avr. 2024

This post is so helpful thank you! In your opinion, if my baby is over 3 months old (4 in this case), should I try and express overnight to avoid engorgement/blocked ducts? I plan to express during the day while I’m away but wondering if you think I would need to at night, also to keep my supply up? I will be away for 5 nights. Thank you!

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Danielle Facey
Danielle Facey
03 mai 2024
En réponse à

Hi Mel, you are so welcome! Regarding expressing on your trip, I would try to replicate your baby's overnight nursing pattern as closely as possible if you can. It certainly won't have a long-term impact upon your supply if you do not manage to do so though! I recommend pumping just before you sleep and first thing in the morning at the very least, to avoid engorgement and so on, alongside pumping in the daytime at intervals which echo your baby's nursing pattern at the time. With love, Danielle ❤️

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Marta Mirallas
Marta Mirallas
22 févr. 2024

I’m so grateful for this post! Thanks for making me feel less guilty for needing some me-time❤️😅

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Danielle Facey
Danielle Facey
03 mai 2024
En réponse à

You are so welcome! I am so glad that it helps you in any way, we all need all the support we can get! I hope you have a wonderful, restful break whenever it happens. With love, Danielle ❤️

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