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10 Ways for Moms to Practise Self Care



1) Define your Boundaries


As a mom there is always someone who wants something from you at some point of the day and night. Be clear about what you will & will not allow. For instance, twiddling (when your nursing child pinches, pulls or twists the opposite nipple to the one they are nursing from) is a hard NO from me. Sleep is my other non-negotiable. If I have barely slept, plans will have to be adapted or cancelled so that I can nap with my boy during the daytime. Without doing this, I am guaranteed to get a migraine which makes me throw up & knocks me out completely for a full 24 hours. I need what I need & I will not apologize for that.


2) Prioritize your Needs


Are you drinking enough fluids? Are you making sure that you eat at least 3 times a day? Are your most basic of needs being met? If not, something needs to change. If you continue to neglect your basic needs, in time you will grow resentful & you will turn away from those who you feel stopped you from meeting those needs. Do. Not. Allow. That. Sh*t. Stop resenting your husband for going out for a drink with his friends after work & make a date with your friends to do something that you love. Expect the me-time that you deserve & make it happen.


3) Reconnect with your Wants


Let’s assume your basic needs are being met, what about your wants? Is your mind being stimulated? When did you last dance? What do you do for yourself that sparks joy? Make plans today to go to that pole fitness class or that new art exhibition soon!


4) Get Outside


Do this as often as possible - preferably somewhere in nature. Walking somewhere green is food for the mind, body & soul & it can be done with your little one(s) too.


5) Ask for & Accept Help


We were never meant to mother alone & when we try to do so, we do ourselves a disservice. Not everyone has a huge village of support, but we all have at least one friend & maybe neighbours who we can reach out to for support. As a wise mama once said:


Ask for help

Ask for love

Ask for anything


6) An Attitude of Gratitude (Not the Toxic Kind)


Practising gratitude is linked with improved overall health and wellness. If you are struggling to find things to be grateful for, start with the here and now. Perhaps, a roof over your head, the clothes on back & your rainbow baby.


7) Meditate


A mother’s mind is generally raving at 100mph 24/7/365. Give your brain a break by meditating. This particular meditation is designed specifically for busy moms & will give you a sense of peace & stillness in just 10 minutes: https://youtu.be/rqHy1HPwHfM


8) Move


As soon as you feel well enough postpartum, find a regular time each day to move your body. Whether it is walking with your children to school, dancing around the living room with your toddler of stretching before bed, find just one thing that works for you & build it into your days.


9) Practise Acceptance


Are you struggling to adjust to the fact that your social life isn’t what it used to be? Does your postpartum body feel alien to you? The transition to motherhood can be an intense on & for me, I was desperate to get back to my usual levels of activity just weeks after the birth of my son. Needless to say, that was impossible in my sleep deprived state with a baby boy who hated his pushchair and his car seat. The moment I stopped resisting The reality of my motherhood as it was at that exact moment, my life was transformed. I don’t believe that any season of motherhood is easy, but no one season lasts forever, either.


10) Connect


There is so much sisterhood to be found in motherhood. If you have not already, find ways to connect with & meet other local moms. They will become integral to new mom life. Your childhood bestie may well be a wonderful listener, but she might not appreciate your vivid description of your baby’s poos the way that new mom friend from your antenatal class does.


Above all, give yourself some grace. Motherhood is as hard as hell without beating yourself up about it. As long as you care that you are doing right by your babies, you are already doing your best.


Adapted from my book: ‘Self Care: The Breastfeeding Edition’ cavailable now, here! www.thebreastfeedingmento.com/book





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